With the Eddie Long story consuming my thoughts today, I thought I'd share an excerpt of a story from my book Black-Eyed Peas for the Soul. This story was contributed by my mother's pastor, Dr. Jo Ann Long of New Covenant Life Church in Chicago. 
Pastor Long  openly shares the sad tale of her husband – a minister – who contracted and died from AIDS. He was leading a down low lifestyle, but it's such an amazing story of love, forgiveness, and believe it  or not, happy endings, that I just had to include it Black-Eyed Peas. It's one of the most popular stories in the book.  
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 A Miracle of Love
JoAnn Long
It  was the 1980s and the AIDS virus discovery and exposure were yet new in  our community and I was walking through my valley of the shadow of  death and fearing the evil. Truthfully speaking, I felt more like I was  crawling through it. Nevertheless, I was moving, determined to get  through.
My husband, Tracy, was in the hospital fighting for his  life and the doctor's report of his condition was resounding over and  over again in my mind. It was not good: HIV positive and its  possible/likely fatal outcome -- the statistics! The specialists in his  field could not offer us any hope and expressed grave concern for me.
Hurting  and angry, I questioned how I could be confronted with such a  monumental situation which was bigger than life, an intrusion, an  invasion of my private world, my home, marriage, and family. I thought,  surely not my husband -- not me! Why me?
I was filled with shock  and grief. I waited for something more to be said -- some explanation,  perhaps. Something! It did not come. I was not really prepared for this,  I thought. Then, as if someone had pushed a video replay button, I  began to hear words of advice that had been spoken to my parents  approximately 20 years ago as I was coming of age. It was a different  time, a different setting, but those words began to replay in my mind  even louder than the hopelessness of the doctor's words and the fear of  the situation -- what I was feeling.
This is the wise counsel of  that individual. She said that as my parents let go, I would develop and  mature as a beautiful woman. She perceived that even as a child, I  flourished under pressure best when I was not petted, pampered, or  smothered with needless pity or sympathy. Through difficulties, I would  draw from my own resources and make it.
As I remembered these  words, I not only drew strength from within, but I discovered I had the  courage to embrace my destiny. What I encountered, experienced, and  lived through leaves me awestruck even to this day.
November  1986, Tracy LaMar Allen died. After his death, I experienced loneliness  such as one could never even imagine. Our courtship and marriage was a  sum total of twenty-five years filled with joys and trials; struggles  and successes, good days and bad (so many of the bad days toward the  end). He had chosen to live part of his life anonymously as a bisexual  (functioning as both and with both: male and female). The confirmed news  of this, as well as the consequences thereof was devastating to him,  our families, and me.
My husband was a minister -- double  jeopardy! After discovering the truth, learning of his life of anonymity  during his illness, I acquiesced to his request not to share what was  happening with family and others for the sake of the children and the  church, and to avoid further embarrassment and ridicule. I loved him. I  respected his individuality and privacy. He made a futile attempt to  protect me and our children by choosing to die incognito, but the news  got out and I was accused of not turning state's evidence and supporting  him in a lifestyle that constituted double standards. I lost much  physically, socially, materially. And, oh, the pain!
During that  time of aloneness and loneliness, once again the video replay button was  pushed and I remembered during meditation that prior to all of this  happening, I had been given the assurances of marriage -- a good  marriage. A whole marriage was part of my great destiny.
I was  back and I was ready to make a comeback. The only way I knew to make a  comeback was to go on. Slowly but surely, I began to accept speaking  engagements, seminars, workshops, etc.
Then it happened! One  Saturday afternoon in 1989 while speaking to the Midwest Clergy  Association, I met the man I was to marry -- my future husband, though I  did not know it at the time. He had observed and admired me, asking for  an introduction. From our first meeting, which was so coincidental to  me, and during the occasional times of our being together, I found  myself filled with a whole succession of emotions -- amazement (more at  myself than him), excitement, fear, joy, love.
We were married  June 1990, and one of the most endearing gifts that John gave to me at  our wedding ceremony was tears. His impassioned, genuine tears flowed  unabashedly from his eyes and down his face as I walked down the aisle  and into his arms at the altar as his bride. Later, in our honeymoon  suite, he told me that his heart was overwhelmed with love and joy to  find such a virtuous woman,  that I was so beautiful as his bride, and how much he loved me.
Often I hear, "How did you meet him?" "You are married to such a good man." "Where did he come from?"
In  the Gospel according to St. John, chapter one, verse six, you will read  these words: "There was a man sent from God, whose name was John."